Put on a happy face
This sounds like a pretty simple one, but believe me, it works. In fact, smiling has been found to actually help enhance your mood, even when you’re feeling really rubbish – kinda like tricking your body into thinking you’re happier. So when I’m in a really negative mood, I try just pulling a little smile (even when I realllyyyy don’t feel like it), and it can start to pull me out of that slump.
Be your own best friend
Imagine your best friend comes to you and tells you they’re feeling rubbish/negative/down about something in their life. What would you say to them? You’d no doubt remind them of all of the positives in their life, and the people around them who love them. Well, use this thinking and turn it back on yourself. Go back to basics, and remind yourself of all of the things in your life that make you happy – the people who you love, and who love you back, and the things that you are so grateful to have in your life. In short, give yourself some good advice – and take it.
This one ties in to the previous one. Basically, think back to times you were innately happy. When I’m feeling down, I think about my favourite memories from my childhood – silly stories, and funny moments that when I look back at, make me super happy. Even if you can only think of a couple, taking yourself away from those negative feeling just for a moment really helps. Trust me, it works.
Remove the negatives
Do you have that one person in your life who just drains all of your positive energy? Or maybe you spend time doing things that you no longer enjoy. Focusing too much of your energy on things that make you unhappy can be really draining. I’ve been in this situation – whether it’s doing a job that stressed me out, or spending too much time with people who brought me down. At one point I had enough, and just decided to do something about it. Focus on changing jobs, and spending less energy on negative people – and it worked! While I felt bad for leaving the job, the new job was so much less stressful, and being around negative people less really helped improve my overall mood.
It might sound a bit harsh, but at the end of the day, if those things are making you feel that negative, then it’s probably time for you to let them go anyways. Obviously it may not always be as easy or simple as this, but taking out as many of the negatives in your life as you can, can really help to improve your positivity – and you’ll thank yourself for it in the long run.
Stop putting yourself down
Much like the previous tip, sometimes the person who can make you feel most negative about yourself is actually you. I struggle with this one a lot – the minute someone tells me something nice about myself, like “I love your freckles.” or something, I immediately come straight back with something like “You only like them because you don’t have them.”, or “Really? I hate them.”. I can pretty much find a negative for any positive thing anyone could say about me. It’s quite impressive really. But those small little negative thoughts can build up and end up with you feeling pretty crap about yourself. So recently, I’ve been trying my best to actually just say ‘thank you’ instead, so that I take in their compliment instead of finding a negative in it. Doing this means you’ll actually subconsciously be taking in those positives, and will result in you feeling much better about yourself.
Anyone else struggle with feeling positive? What tips and tricks do you have to keep up the good vibes?